You don't know me. But my Mother Catherine Staunton known as Rena died on new years eve, 31 Dec 2019. We had to wait due to backlogs until 28 Jan (her 94th birthday) to have a funeral Mass in Hendon at a RC Church we had never been to and then burial after a few graveside prayers with her husband of over 50 years. In the meantime at our local parish, in North Lincolnshire, where she had lived her last 2.5 years, a week before on Tuesday 21 Jan, we took over the usual weekly mass at 9.30 am, and remembered her, sang a few hymns without music and I told the 25 or 30 there including those from her care home and little about her and shared Tea Coffee and Cakes, which I had sorted/ baked the day before.
You gave your Father the best family send off with you all gathered around him and later gathered in simple prayers in the graveyard. Later you can have a memorial service, which in many ways can be simple, does not need funeral directors or a coffin. A good Picture or photo, people he cared for gathered, prayers readings and some simple refreshments.
This might be an Irish tradition, generally people have a funeral over there within 3 or 4 days of a death. No orders of service, news spread by word of mouth.. people gather and face up to the loss together. Afterwards Masses are arranged and said for the person who has died and their family, letter received and Small memorial cards prepared which are shared around family and friends for with a picture of the person or couple, dates and places of birth, death, burial and a few simple prayers on the reverse. I have found writing back to people and including these little memorial cards which were easy and inexpensive for a local printer to do helped me complete by thanking the people.
Thinking of you in your loss, I am sure very difficult. However you are not alone and a memorial service later in the year perhaps middle of summer or a significant date will I feel sure be possible and a fitting tribute to your Father. May he rest in peace and rise in Glory.
Ursula Barton upon Humber