Helen Milton
Spen you’ll be greatly missed
Condolences
Andrew Thompson
There are no words that can make this better. Just know that you are surrounded by love, and if you ask we will come with our ears and our hearts. All our love to you and the kids
Louise
Dear Liz, Kate and Dylan,
I am truly sorry for your loss and my heart goes out to you all in this tough time. I worked with Spencer at DB and he was a great colleague who was smart, helpful and made us all laugh. He spoke about his family all the time and I know he loved you above all else. I will miss hearing all his travel stories and his unique points of view.
Do take care of each other and know that we are all thinking of you.
Louise
Mark Charad
Spen was a great workmate, a wonderful human being, and someone I was proud to call my friend. I will miss his smile, his positive attitude to life, his stories and the great chats around the break out areas at work or in the pub. My thoughts are with you Liz and the kids at this very difficult time.
Dhaval Patel
Dear Backhouse Family,
My heart doesn't want to believe this new reality where Spencer is not going to be around with us in person. Spencer has been a great mentor for many like me back home in Mumbai. I will miss out banter at coffee, Lunch and over a pint. I will truly miss his visits to Mumbai. Spencer's joyfulness and positive attitude towards life is something we will always remember and cherish. He lives in our memory and in our hearts. May god give you the strength to cope with this new reality.
Sinem Bulent
Dear Liz, Kate and Dylan,
I am so sorry for your loss.
I worked with Spencer at DB and he was a wonderful colleague and friend.
He loved telling me what he had cooked at the weekend and all about your family travels.
He was a super proud dad and husband who will be dearly missed by all of his friends and colleagues at DB.
Know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Rumi
My sincere condolences! I am so so sorry for your loss...Spence, was such a ray of sunshine, always positive and smiling and always happy to help! My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief.
Kristine Villacarlos
Dear Liz,
I am so sorry for your loss. I have had the privilege to work with Spencer for years now in DB and in that span of time have gotten to know him better. He is truly one of the people that I loved working with. I will always remember all the stories he shared with us during the days he would join us for lunch or over during our team fostering. He was funny, kind and really has a deep viewpoint about life and the world. I will forever cherish those memories since not only have I enjoyed them and his company, but I have learned a lot from him too. He always talks about you and your kids with fondess and love. I will really miss him too. I can just imagine that this is a very painful time for you and your family but I am sure Spen is watching over all of you. Sending you my deepest condolences.
KV
Tom Burn
Spencer, despite not working together every day, and not even based in the same building, your personality, kindness and generosity was clear for all to see. You will be sorely missed
Zooulla Evangelou
Dear Liz
Sending my heartfelt condolences to you and your family
Michael Kaye
I don't know what to write but I do remeber some great times.
Nina Guinchard
Deepest condolences. Spencer was a fantastic person and will be deeply missed.
Wendy Levingbird
Spenc. A dear friend and colleague. Your humour and your kindness is a lesson for us all.
Please accept my sincere condolences and express my sadness to you and yours and know that you are all in my thoughts.
Warmest wishes
Wendy (Deutsche Bank)
Ozzie Saran
My condolences to the Backhouse family. Spen will be greatly missed...May he rest in peace.
Jill Backhouse
I cannot find the words to say how much I will miss you Spencer, my beautiful boy. You have been such a loving son, thoughtful in every way, and have left a huge hole in our lives. You have always been there for me, and now I will return your love by looking after all those dear to you. God bless you and keep you close. Your loving Mum xxx
Devashree Karnik
Dear Backhouse Family,
Heartfelt condolences for the loss of Dearest, Spen. May his kind soul rest in peace. You will be missed dearly. Love and warm wishes.
Devashree Karnik.
Suzan & Alper Onal
We are fortunate to have known and worked with Spen. He has touched all those around him with his kindness and humor. He will be missed. Our thoughts are with his family and loved ones during this difficult time. Our hearts reach out to yours with sympathy and with caring.
Raelene Pillay
To Spencer's family
My sincere condolences for your loss. I worked with Spencer at DB. He always spoke fondly of his family. He was helpful and will be remembered for the smile he brought into the office each day. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
John and June Kaye
So difficult to take it in
Christina Henry
Spencer, you were truly one of the nicest people I have ever had the pleasure to meet. Your kindness and thoughtfulness was a blessing, no matter how busy or stressful any day was you always took the time to think of others. You will be very much missed but never forgotten. Sending my love to all of your family at this extremely difficult time.
Josephine Wong
Dearest Liz, Kate and Dylan,
With such overwhelming sadness upon hearing this news - incredibly sorry to hear about your loss. Spencer was truly one of a kind. He was authentic, intellectual, always curious and one of the most streetwise person I have ever met in my life. He was an amazing and helpful colleague. We adored his life adventure stories, his devotion to his family and how incredibly proud he was of his family.
I hope each of you find the strength to cope - sending healing prayers and lots of comforting hugs.
Simon
I was so sorry to hear of your tragic loss. Please accept my sincere condolences. Spencer was a thoroughly decent bloke who will be much missed.
Simon
I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear of your loss. Working with Spen over the last 10 years he was always someone I welcomed a chat with be it in relation to work but usually to hear about his latest travels/adventures or plans for them. He always had a smile on his face, was living life to the full and will be genuinely missed around here.
Roger Thomas
I am sorry to hear of your great loss. I had the great pleasure of working with Spencer at Lombard Risk Management, where his personal commitment to the role improved everyone's lives.
Mary & Tony Fletcher
Spencer,
An extremely polite and pleasant young man with a ready welcoming smile for everyone.
Very much loved by all his family and friends, he will be missed by everyone who had the pleasure and the privilege to know him.
Rest peacefully
James
Dear Liz, Kate and Dylan,
I am so sorry for your loss and I can only imagine how much you must miss Spencer. I met Spencer over 10 years ago through work and he was always a tremendous colleague but he also became a true friend. He was such a great character who would go out of his way to help everyone but above all he loved his family.
Giselle Mason
Sincere condolences to you all on your sad loss. So sorry. Sending love and prayers. Giselle and John xx
Maria
Dear Liz, Kate and Dylan
I have known Spen for many years. I had the priviledge to work with him in the same team at DB where I got to know him well.
I always admired his honesty and his courage to speak the truth. He was very respectul and kind and always willing to help colleagues and friends.
He had a live and let live attitude that I loved.
I will miss his intellect and our conversations with his deep insights about life. He had so many stories and anecdotes to tell, full of lessons and humour and cheekiness. He was a very positive influence and lived life to the maximum.
You were his world and talked about you all the time, with so much pride and devotion. He truly adored you and I know Spen will look after you and protect you.
Love never dies. Our loved ones live in us, in our hearts, in our values, in everything we do, in everything they taught us.
My thoughts are with you in such a difficult time. I am sending you strength and lots of comforting hugs.
Priya
Dear Backhouse family, my deepest condolences, I am truly sorry for your loss. Spencer's kindness, enthusiasm and fantastic smile will be dearly missed, he was one of the most positive colleagues to work with. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
John Brian Backhouse (Father)
I cannot comprehend that just a few weeks ago I was sharing my milestone 80th birthday on the 18th September with my beloved son Spencer, around his family dinner table, as our last meal together, and as we left to say 'goodbye' he called me his hero.
The joy he has continually given his mother and myself during these past 48 years has been immense, with his family values, his love, fairness and protection for those around him, and his thoughtfulness in personal birthday and Christmas presents that only he alone could deliver. His final present to me, his father, being a street plan of where I was born back in 1940 together with a sepia photograph of the family house as it is today.
Spencer, I have said many times how proud I am of you in all that you have achieved in this life, and in the twilight of my own life, your memory will never fade from my thoughts as having lived loved and been respected by all who had the good fortune to know you.
Tragically you have passed from this world so young and regretted, with so many plans and aspirations unfulfilled.
Be assured Spencer your Mum and I will wrap our blanket of care around Liz, Kate and Dylan whilst we are able, as indeed you would have wished.
Meanwhile, Rest in Peace my Number 3 Son.
Your loving Dad x
Asif Khan
In the time I have known Spencer, he was always full of life. He had so many life’s exciting experiences to share. He certainly was centre of attention in our circle and such a pleasure to be around with. During the COVID times I particularly miss the lunch sessions we would have around the break out area and he will be sadly missed as a friend and colleague. I cherish the memories we have built in the years together and his view on life will always remain with me. Asif
Kevin Hogan
Thinking of the family at this incredibly difficult time. I am so sorry for your loss.
Spencer was by far the most authentic person i've worked with in my career. He was always helpful and had a commitment to doing a proper job even through difficult times. He was fun to be around and made the office a brighter place.
Dipesh Patel
Dear Liz, Kate and Dylan
I had the privilege and honour of working with Spencer over the last few years. I will truly and deeply miss him. Spencer was a wonderful colleague - always positive, sincere and genuinely kind. He talked openly about you his family with such pure devotion. His wise views on what really matters in life and what being a father meant were inspirational to me and will be always be remembered. I pray for his wonderful soul. Deepest sympathies. Dipesh
David Payne
This is such sad news.
Reading the other messages of condolence reminded me so much of the friend I first met at primary school. I'd not seen Spencer for many years, but it is heartening to know that Spencer maintained all the personal qualities he had during his school days. His sense of humour and adventure, his engagement with friends & family and his sincerity.
I have many fond memories of the time spent together in our younger years. Star Wars battles, trading ZX Spectrum games, organising 6th Form parties and risking it all with lifts home after school in the Hillman Imp!
My thoughts are with you all.
David
Regina
Dear Liz, Kate and Dylan,
I am truly sorry for your loss. I worked with Spencer at DB and he was such a joy to work with and chat to.
His energy, positivity and willingness to always help was inspiring. He will be missed so much by his colleagues.
You are all in my thoughts and prayers. In spirit Spencer will always be with us.
Rohit
I have known Spen for 10+years now and I can say I have thoroughly enjoyed every conversation and interaction with him. I will always remember his stories about travel, life experiences and of course his beloved family. His unique and interesting opinions will certainly be missed. What Spencer has managed to achieve in his lifetime, one can only dream of.
His friendly and warm presence has helped not just me but our entire team at work a great deal. Spencer's loss will always be felt.
Liz, Kate and Dylan - I am truly sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with all of you at this tough time. Take care.
Andy Strang
One of life's good guys. You'll be missed mate.
Darren Sidnick
Dear Liz, Kate and Dylan
All our thoughts are with you on this saddest of days.
Darren, Jenny, James and Eleanor
Chris Knowles
Forever thankful to have known and worked with Spencer over many years, but especially these last 12 months when despite all the challenges in life and the world this year Spen always stayed positive and it was especially clear to see how he appreciated and enjoyed the extra time at home with the family he adored.
Whilst Spen consoled me on football results and we reminisced over Nigel Mansell and Valentino Rossi, his tips, advice and best wishes for my own kids will be something I'll always remember and I’m sure will be a lasting legacy that he leaves not just me but so many other dads who knew him. He'll be greatly missed but will remain with us all.
Rest well Spen
Alison Trow
I'm so very sorry to hear this.
I knew Spencer in 6th Form and had some adventures in the Hillman Imp and the "Jet-Propelled Carrot." Fond memories of 6th form pubs and parties. One long-standing memory is of when Spencer called for me one night and was horrified when the front door was answered by one of his teachers - who happened to be my mum.
Apart from a brief Facebook chat a few years ago, we hadn't been in touch since school. It's lovely to see a photo of Spencer and his family. Such a handsome man and, oh gosh, what a beautiful family.
I remember 18 year old Spencer as being funny, clever, lovely and thoughtful. Reading comments here, they were characteristics that he carried into adulthood.
I'm so sorry for your loss. My mum was also shocked to hear this and would also like to pass on her condolences to you all.
Ali
Paul Millgate
I was lucky enough to be a friend and colleague of Spen's. He was funny, witty, opinionated and unusually for a banker, charismatic. I shall miss him very much indeed. My condolences go to his family, I am so sorry for your loss.
Emma Dabin
Uncle Spencer; you were a loving uncle and a kind sole. You always brought the best out in people and made everyone feel so welcome. I am so glad you were part of my life, and I know God will look after you. You will be greatly missed. From Emma xx
Paul Deeks
To dear Liz, Kate and Dylan,
the wife and family, of whom Spen spoke with such love.
I had the privilege of working with Spen at DB in excess of 10 years and I am deeply saddened by our terrible loss.
I will always remember his friendly and hard working disposition, the many times we laughed and I extend my deepest sympathy to you, Spen's beloved family.
Emma Dabin
Uncle Spencer; such a kind hearted and loving sole. Always made everyone feel happy and welcome. I know God will look after you. You will be forever missed. From Emma xxx
Al Bedingfield
Spencer was a work colleague and good friend. He always found time for others and for what he saw as important. I will miss his candid conversation and cheerful take on issues impacting the world. My heart and thoughts are with his family.
Mehul H Giri
Dear Liz, Kate and Dylan,
I am so sorry for your loss. I worked with Spen at DB and have known him for more than 3 years. He was a great colleague and friend who has inspired me and many others with his stories & life experiences. I remember how happy and proud he used feel on the annual family day at DB taking the kids around the office. There has never been a dull moment with Spen being there and no team dinners were complete without Spen. I still cannot believe that I am writing this message for Spen. Loss of Spen will be felt by many and no words can describe how much he will be missed.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.
Take care.
Jane Potts
Dearest Liz, Katie, Dylan and family, our thoughts are with you as you lay your beloved Spen to rest today. Sending all our love and light to you all at this saddest of times,
Jane Potts and family xxx
Peter Vassiliou
Dear Backhouse Family,
I am so sorry for your loss. I had the pleasure of sitting next to Spencer and we would have the best conversations about families and cars. He was a wonderful person
I will dearly miss him as a friend first and colleague second and my deepest thoughts are with you at this difficult time x
Martin and Shama Eames
Words feel inadequate dearest Liz, Kate, Dylan, Jill, John and all the family. We hold you in our thoughts and prayers and send you our love.
Tim and Steph Aylott
We are so so so sorry for your loss. Far too young and too early. We have fond memories of Spen, he was the epitome of a great husband and great father. Lots of love to Liz, Kate, Dylan and Spen’s family. Thinking of you all constantly. Xx
Lee Bartlett
Dear Liz, Kate and Dylan,
I’m so sorry for your loss. Spen was a great friend and I’m really going to miss him. We would often talk about all the things going on in our lives, often over a long lunch. He was always so full of love and pride when talking about you all and the things you’d been doing together. I can’t begin to imagine how difficult this must be for you right now. My family and I send our deepest condolences, and please know you are constantly in our thoughts and prayers.
Elise Zinssmeister
My deepest condolences to the Backhouse family. Spencer was a one of the most genuinely kind and authentic people I have worked with at DB, who always loved to talk about his family. My thoughts and prayers are with you all during this difficult time.
Emma Boulton
Dear Jill, John, Marsha, Russell and Dudley.
I am so sorry for your loss, to be taken so young is so tragic. Spencer was a kind and supportive brother to Marsha, I am thankful that you all have brilliant memories of him from while he was here, and hopeful that I can support you as you process what has happened. To Liz, Kate and Dylan - Please accept my sincerest condolences for the loss of your husband / father. Rest in Peace Spencer I am deeply sorry for your loss.
Jo Wignall
My deepest condolences to your family. Spen was a joy to work with. Full of crazy stories, kindness and love for his family. He will be missed by all.
Laurie Dawson
Spen was my Best friend and I have known him for as long as I can remember.
We met at Castle Donnington school and shared most of our adventures together growing up and in later life.
We shared a passion for motorsport and anything with an engine, we went on many driving and riding trips abroad in a variety of vehicles, usually involving a breakdown or other adventure.
Spen was a great family man and a fantastic father.
He was always there for anyone who needed him,
an outstanding friend and an outstanding man and I will miss him so much.
Johan Frederiks
Dear Backhouse Family,
Our sincere condolences.
Spencer was very much unique from young age on.
His smile a present for many.
Marsha Dabin - your only sister
I can not believe that I have had to carry your coffin and say goodbye. I will miss you so much Spence - you have no idea. You grew your wings too early but until we meet again - I love little brother xxx